How long do you have to endure the miserable suffering of grief? I wanted to know that immediately. The usual answer, "Everyone is different," was frustrating to me. Here is what I discovered through the process of grieving.
Read moreLetting Go of Expectations in Grief
Maybe you think you should be better by now. Probably you wish you were. Both of those responses to grief are understandable, but expecting your pain to evaporate by a certain date is a means to disappointment and frustration.
Read moreCommemorating the Anniversary of a Death
I continue to remember the anniversary of my late husband’s death. It’s an odd thing to commemorate, this occasion that was the opposite of joy, but how do you ignore it?
Read moreCreating a Place to Comfort Grief
About a year and a half before my husband died, we had moved to a farmhouse on a tree farm with twenty-seven isolated acres. It felt like an adventure to be experiencing nature in a new way with coyote, wild turkeys, fox, families of deer, and other creatures roaming just outside the door. There were barns, and streams, and paths through the woods. Then Bill died and I was living in this wilderness by myself.
Read moreLoving Two People
Loving your deceased spouse and your new one at the same time.
Read moreNew Love After Loss
Finding new love is not a disloyalty to your deceased spouse.
Read moreWhat to do With Belongings When Someone You Love Dies
Facing the belongings of your loved one after they’ve died is hard. Here are some ideas on sorting through things at your own pace.
Read moreLetters to Your Deceased Loved One
One of the only things that offered me comfort in the early days of grief was the practice of writing letters to my late husband. I filled many journals with dated letters to him. Something about the process of writing by hand was
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